When I decided to message the other
women on social media, my motivations
were a bit selfish. I wanted to understand what
had happened to me, and I thought they
might have information that would help.
First, I told the three other women
my ex had been seeing at the same time as me.
All were very shocked, and none of them knew
that he had been cheating on them.
When I found out he’d cheated on previous partners,
I messaged them, too. All in all,
I got in touch with about 130 women.
Most of them were very open to hearing from me,
but not everyone was. I messaged one girlfriend who
had briefly overlapped with me. She took months to
send a short response, and we haven’t been
in touch since. That’s fine. I know how traumatic
it is to live through betrayal. I want to meet
other women where they are in processing what happened.
